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Fileva on Self-Sabotage

Monday, June 8th, 2020

Iskra Fileva discusses self-sabotage, writing, “Self-sabotage may have to do with what we think we deserve. Even if we do not see ourselves as deserving of¬†punishment, we may not believe we are worthy of success and happiness either. What often passes for insecurity and self-doubt may, at bottom, be a belief¬† that we have not and perhaps cannot earn the right to get what we want: ‘I am not the kind of person who will ever be happy, loved, successful, etc,’ is a common attitude among self-saboteurs.”

She also points out that people can, due to self-doubt, “slide into a cycle of self-sabotage little by little, imperceptibly.” She gives the example of someone trying to become a painter but who starts, little by little, spending more time screwing around and less time actually painting. But people can also pull themselves out of self-sabotage, one productive act at a time.

Incidentally, Fileva’s article squares nicely with what Ayn Rand and Nathaniel Branden have written about self-esteem.